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Romantic at Heart
So now that you have
decided what is it that interests you in a person and what your
interests and tastes are, try such key word searches on a search
engine like Google.
The idea over here is
not to advertise yourself as a person who is in search of a life
partner. No matter how well you put it, it looses that touch of
subtlety once you are in a singles' chat room. So don't do it that
way. You remember how we spoke about working backwards; this is how
it is done.
We will tell you how to
project yourself best in a later chapter but for now let us talk
about finding Mr. Right or Ms. Right. An interesting thing to be
noted here is that it is not difficult to fall in love with a person
or to make a choice. The difficult part is to make the right choice
and to fall in love with the right person.
The second thing that
you could do is chalk out a list of qualities that you genuinely
dislike in a person. Yes I am not joking! Dislikes are just as
important, or even more important than likes. We all have to make
compromises here and there, but if we start away by condoning things
which we genuinely dislike, it is going to tell on the relationship
at sometime or the other.
I would like to give a
word of caution over here. A lot of people make a mistake when they
are courting. They put up their best behavior which is very good of
course, but they try to be very adjusting and accommodating which is
NOT very good. A point that they tend to over look is that they are
not going to be going on a camping trip with this person that they
are trying to impress; they are going to be living the rest of their
lives with the person.
So it is best not to be
very "oh so very accommodating and adjusting."
You can afford to stick
to things that you are very particular about. And if you have any
thoughts that you will be able to mold the person out of his or her
offending habits at a later date, forget it.
The moment you start
trying to mold or cajole the person out of his or her habits,
whatever they may be, the word becomes 'nagging' and if at all the
person does drop the habit, he or she will love you less for it.
It really doesn't work
that way. So it's best to have a clear idea about qualities and
habits that you genuinely dislike in a person and steer clear of the
'lesser mortals' who have those habits.
Once you have a fairly
clear idea about your likes and dislikes you are in a better position
to make the right choice. And considering the multitude of people out
there, you do not have to worry or be over anxious that you just
might not find any one at all. He or she is out there, and if you are
doing what you are doing right, namely barking up the right tree you
There are some people
who even believe that every thing is ordained. It has been written
down who should marry who and in the end only that which should
happen will happen. Well, I don't know about that, but I do know that
dating helps speed up the process.
Another thing that you
could do is that you could just let nature take its course. Oh nature
has its wonderful ways. There is a lot of chemistry involved in the
selection of partner so maybe the best thing we could do is lend
nature a helping hand.