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Bragging, as we all
know, is a major turnoff. So it is best to steer completely clear of
it. This is especially true in the case of physical attributes. You
might be one hell of a looker, but let the other person decide,
remember that what wine is for Peter can turn of to be venom for
You can make implied
statements like, "I am certainly not a bad looker," or "opinion is
divided, some people think that I am good looking while others think
that I am not." But perhaps the best way of describing yourself would
be to add a touch of humor to it.
If you are chubby you
could say something like, "I am round in all the right places…I
hope." If you are tall you could say something like, "some say I
should play basketball." If you are on the short side you could say
something like, "I might seem to lacking in size but I assure you, it
is all there."
You know what is the
best part about such witty remarks about oneself? Humor always works.
All of us have been blessed with a sense of humor to some degree at
least and if a person is able to make funny comments about himself or
herself, that always acts as a turn on. And you can take my word for
it; humor sells like a billion dollars.
We have seen and heard
other people describe themselves and these kind of descriptions sort
of sink into our heads. The moment some one asks us to describe
ourselves, we start off by using such hackneyed phrases.
I think it is much
better to completely steer clear of hackneyed phrases. It makes us
look like just another face in the crowd. Tell me, unless you have an
identical twin, have you ever seen any one who looks exactly like
Then why on earth
should your description of yourself sound like a banal organ that has
been played again and again. Try to sound as original as you can.
Make yourself sound interesting.
Try to use as many
similes and comparisons as possible. If you are blonde, well don't
just say that you are blonde. You could descriptions like,
"My hair is the color
of freshly harvested hay."
If you are a brunette
you could say something like
"My hair color would
make a raven blush." If you have red hair, you could try something
like, "My hair is like the setting sun."
Another point that I
would like to add is you do not have to belittle yourself. Every coin
has two sides and it all depends on the way you look at it. For
example, if you have dark skin, there is absolutely no reason to feel
bad about it. It all depends on how you put it across. You could try
expressions like, "If you like chocolate then you are going to love
the color of my skin." Or "My body looks like polished
Remember, beauty lies
in the eyes of the beholder, and it is left to you to convince the
beholder. Most people are willing to believe what you tell them,
provided you tell them convincingly enough.
Try to make yourself
sound as interesting as possible. I mean it. If you are painting a
self portrait you might as well use the right colors. Before we leave
our homes what do we do? We all spend at least five minutes in front
of our mirrors in an attempt to make our selves look as presentable
and as impressive as possible.
Well, the same thing
applies to our profile. Remove all drab details about yourself that
might be of no interest to the reader. If you job is something like
editing journals on the etymology of words derived from ancient
Aramaic, well, just say that you have an editing job.
Similarly try to bear
in mind that anything can be put down in two ways. You can either
make it interesting or boring; so work on it until you are sure that
it will not bore a reader to death and the best test for this would
be to hand it over to a close friend and ask that friend's opinion.
Nobody likes a bore so take all efforts not to sound like one.
At the same time what
ever you put down about yourself must not be confusing. It just does
not work to put down a statement like, "while I am not really given
to sports, nor am I considered to be an outdoor person, I have
developed a passing interest in watching football, and have had my
stints with Terra firma."
Phew! If, anything
drives people away, statements like this certainly do. For Heaven's
sake avoid phrases like "I am different," especially when you are
talking about your appearance. The other person will in all
likelihood conjure up images of a three horned monster or a lion
Another example is when
you use phrases like, "I don't play by the rules," or "I am game for
something new." These expressions can be hopelessly misleading and it
is the easiest thing in the world to add a sexual innuendo to such an
expression and that would be a sure shot method of biting off more
than you can chew.
Now that we have
discussed the major pitfalls, let us go the real profile. The reason
I said real profile is that the profile must indeed reflect the
person you are.