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Romantic at Heart
While you might take
some care to conceal your identity it is best not to lie.
Do not try to bluff
your way through a relationship because at sometime the whole thing
might come out and as we all know, one lie leads to another and then
before you know it the whole relationship will crash. Be as honest
and as frank as you can, taking care to conceal your identity.
Some one once said that
a friend is some one who knows all about you and loves you just the
same. So there is no need to hide things about you. Of course you do
not have to tell the person every ghastly, gory detail about
yourself, but at the same time you do not have to conjure up stuff
about you that just is not true.
If at all you do paint
a very rosy picture about yourself, including things that just are
not true, or are far fetched exaggerations, and the other person does
flip for you, in reality you will be basking in another person's
glory. This picture you have painted is just not you.
When you choose a
handle to identify yourself by, you have to be sharp. Do not try to
attract as many partners as possible. After all, what are we looking
for, quality or quantity? Try to attract only the kind of people you
are interested in and who would find you interesting.
That is why we
suggested that you use a handle that better defines the kind of
person you are. Do not try to sound like a sex god or a sex goddess.
If you are, let the other person decide for him self or her self; (it
is much better than having the person come up with statements like
"is it in yet?") So steer clear of handles like Megastud,
Handsomehunk, Superbabe or Bedlover.
Instead of that you
could try handles that gives one an immediate idea about the kind of
person you are. If you are an outdoor person use something like
Natureguy or Naturegirl; if you are a music freak use something like
Musicman or Musicmaid. If you are into theatre and stuff like that
you could choose a name like Theatreguy or Theatregirl.
The point is to win
over people who are interested in the same stuff as you are. That of
course increases your chances of gelling with the person.
Another crucial thing
about writing your profile is that you should keep it as brief as
possible. Nobody and that means nobody wants to read through lines
and lines of another person's profile. If you make it so long winded
the person who is reading it will get the idea that you are the kind
of person who would love to keep on talking about yourself and
instead of go on a date with you, the reader would rather curl up and
But that doesn't mean
that you have to limit the whole thing to just a few words. A too
brief profile would sound as if you do not have time for all this,
but you are just doing it for the heck of it.
The best style that you
could use would be to be 100% natural. Write your profile as you
would describe yourself to a person directly. The conversation style
has the widest appeal I might add. Make it simple and stay away from
big words and hackneyed expressions.
Think about it for a
minute. Look at yourself in the mirror. Do you look like anyone else
that you know? We all look so different though essentially we have
been endowed with the same external characteristics, which are one
nose, one mouth, two eyes and two ears.
So in spite of having
the same building blocks, if we can look so different why do we have
to sound alike? Think about yourself in a different way. Do not just
consider your likes and dislikes when you are writing your profile,
consider your endearing qualities as well. Endearing qualities, what
Those are those
qualities which make you liked by others. Of course, these are things
that we never bother, about but maybe we should. So what I would
suggest would be to ask your best friends why they like you. Who
knows, their answers just might surprise you! But at least you will
get an idea of what you can include in your profile.
You could try out the
following exercise to find out what kind of a person you are. I won't
say that the results are absolutely fool proof but they certainly
might be interesting.