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Romantic at Heart
It is a good idea to
decide before hand and communicate your decision to go Dutch, which
means that each person should pay for whatever he or she has. That's
the way that it is supposed to be because if nothing works out of
this relation you certainly do not want to be obliged to the person.
When you choose the
place, avoid secluded spots and places that you are not familiar
with. But the ambience is indeed important. You cannot expect to have
a tête-à-tête in a crowded shopping mall, can you?
I think that is about it about your first date.
So what happens if you
get more than one offer to date at more or less the same time? Or in
other words, what happens if you become close to more than one person
at a time? Hey, that is probably the very thing we are looking out
for. You could go on different dates and then compare for your self
and choose the best person.
You do not have to leap
for the first person who caught your fancy. You have the right to
choose, so go ahead and do it. There is no need to feel guilty about
two timing any body as long as you do not promise any one that you
are not seeing any one else.
And what happens if you
bump into date number one while you are out with date number 2. Well,
all you have to do is treat it as the most natural thing in the
world. Introduce date No.1 to date No.2 as your friends and watch how
they behave. This is an excellent way of finding out how a jealous
husband or wife may behave in future.
But what ever happens,
a double date, that is going out with two people together is
completely out of the question!
Offline Dating: How To
Make That Great Impression
When you are dating
online, you have a lot of things to your advantage. For example, the
other person does not really see you and you do not really have to
bother about appearances. You can devote your entire energy towards
sounding intelligent and witty.
But when you are
actually seated in front of a person, there are a thousand things
that you have to pay attention to. There are many people who believe
that it is not really important to keep up appearances. They feel
that it is more important to be oneself.
It sounds good enough.
But on your first date at least you certainly have to keep up
appearances. The other person should not feel ashamed to be seen
around with you and so you should try as hard as possible to avoid
that faux pas.
Let us start with your
physical appearance. While I did mention earlier that you do not have
to be dressed to kill, it is very important that you have to appear
well groomed. Take special care about things like nails, hair, and
teeth. Check for bad breath too because that indeed is the worst turn
What you wear should
not be loud and attract the wrong kind of attention. Choose something
that you are comfortable in and at the same time that looks good on
you. Ladies, please be careful about your make-up, and remember that
make-up is meant to accentuate your looks not to hide it. It is best
to avoid garish colors..
You should smell good
of course but don't over do it. We certainly don't want you to remain
in the other person's memory as just one strong smell. Men, please
take care to go in for masculine scents like musk, or smells from
nature. Women, keep it as light and dainty as possible.
The Secret is
All the things that
have been said so far are about how you can create a favorable
impression. There is something that is equally or even more important
than that, and that is to make the other person feel comfortable.
Help the other person relax.
Any way you have been
chatting for quite some time so you do know a great deal about each
other. The best thing you can do is to ease the tension and break the
ice. Sometimes the ice gets so thick that you can literally feel it.
Break it up by cracking a joke or two.
But the joke should be
spontaneous and in keeping with the situation or else it will fall
flat. Do not rehearse a joke because a rehearsed joke
The key word here is
charm. Use all the charm that you can muster. Try to be as
considerate and as thoughtful as possible. Do not dominate the
conversation but try to get the other person talking. People
generally love to talk about themselves so try to get the other
person talking by asking about the person's work. Show interest in
whatever the other person says.
Try to be a good
conversationalist. A good conversationalist is not a person who talks
well, but is one who listens well as well. So try to be a good
listener. And while you are listening try not to get distracted by
something else or the other person might feel that you are losing
interest in what he or she is saying.
Then comes the
question, "what do you do if you find that the other person is
dominating the conversation?"
Well, in that case
listen patiently for a minute or two and then give a subtle sign like
a raised eyebrow or a smile through the corner of your mouth. If the
other person is intelligent enough, he or she will get the cue. If
not, then take your chance, you might have to listen to this person
for the rest of your life.
Humor rarely fails. But
again take care not to over do it. There is only one thing worse than
a total lack of humor and that is too much humor.
It is a good idea to
take a gift along with you as that does create a good impression, but
remember that when you are courting the gifts should be limited to
flowers or chocolates only. While you are chatting try to find out
what the other person likes in flowers and chocolates. You certainly
don't want to give the person flowers that he or she is allergic
The object of your gift
should not be to woo the person but to create a good and lasting
impression. There is no sense in splurging a lot on your first date
for there is no rule that every thing should work out well the first
time itself. Do not over do it and at the same time do not appear
cheap and stingy either.
However if the other
person has forgotten to bring you a gift, be quick to reassure the
person that it is perfectly alright. Do not let the other person feel
uneasy. In fact, that is a wonderful way to make the conversation
light. You can jokingly tell the other person to get you a gift the