Step 5: Once
brought to you free
Romantic at Heart
Many of my readers
might be worried that everything does not work out like has been
described, what would they do? Or in other words if this first date
does not work out what should they do? The answer is very simple,
repeat the whole process again.
Let's go back to where
we started. Remember, this is a chance to find the partner for life
so we might have to grow many plants before we get the right
I am not talking about
two timing here. What I mean is that instead of putting all your eggs
in one basket, keep the avenues open. Don't just bank on one person,
because if that doesn't work out, you might lose heart. You can hope
for the best but expect the contrary as well.
Only the every lucky
ones get the right pick at the first go it self. For the rest of us,
we just have to keep trying till we succeed. Another advantage of
trying out different people is that you can get to choose. It should
not be that you just flipped for the first guy or girl who came your
way. Take you time, give yourself some breathing space and then make
the right decision.
Nobody can force you
into making a commitment. It should be completely your choice. Of
course, if you get the right cues and something deep down inside
tells you that this is the right person for you, then what are you
waiting for, go ahead and show the green signal.
But on the other hand
if someone is trying to force you into making a commitment and you
feel hard pressed, gently try to break away. All you have to do is
put your foot down very firmly and tell the person that you need more
However, it is not good
to keep a person waiting indefinitely. Tell the person that you need
perhaps a week's time or more than that. But don't let the person
realize that you are checking out other people. Just tell them that
this is probably the most important decision in your life so you just
want to be sure.
I would like to add one
word about signing off. In case things do not work out please take
care to part gracefully. In such instances it is not the best
decision to say such things over chat. The other person may put
forward some very uncomfortable questions that you will have a tough
The best thing you cold
do is send the person an e-mail telling him or her that he or she was
not really what you had in mind, but you would like to remain good
friends all the same.
You do not have to
worry about being pestered by the other person in future; the "good
friends" part never fails. Most people dislike to be called a good
friend after a close encounter. In most cases the relationship just
sizzles out after this. However please remember that it is indeed bad
manners to part with out a word and just stop answering mails without
any information at all.
Some people do that
because they do not want to offend the other person. But such
callousness is really worse.
So that is all about
it. You know everything that is to be known and the ball is now well
and truly in your courts. So what are you waiting for, why don't you
go out there and make your presence felt and come back with the catch
of a lifetime.
I don't think that we
have left any stones unturned and from here I'm sure that on your
first date everything will be well in your control.
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