Step 5: Once Bitten

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Many of my readers might be worried that everything does not work out like has been described, what would they do? Or in other words if this first date does not work out what should they do? The answer is very simple, repeat the whole process again.


Let's go back to where we started. Remember, this is a chance to find the partner for life so we might have to grow many plants before we get the right harvest.


I am not talking about two timing here. What I mean is that instead of putting all your eggs in one basket, keep the avenues open. Don't just bank on one person, because if that doesn't work out, you might lose heart. You can hope for the best but expect the contrary as well.


Only the every lucky ones get the right pick at the first go it self. For the rest of us, we just have to keep trying till we succeed. Another advantage of trying out different people is that you can get to choose. It should not be that you just flipped for the first guy or girl who came your way. Take you time, give yourself some breathing space and then make the right decision.


Nobody can force you into making a commitment. It should be completely your choice. Of course, if you get the right cues and something deep down inside tells you that this is the right person for you, then what are you waiting for, go ahead and show the green signal.


But on the other hand if someone is trying to force you into making a commitment and you feel hard pressed, gently try to break away. All you have to do is put your foot down very firmly and tell the person that you need more time.


However, it is not good to keep a person waiting indefinitely. Tell the person that you need perhaps a week's time or more than that. But don't let the person realize that you are checking out other people. Just tell them that this is probably the most important decision in your life so you just want to be sure.


Signing Off


I would like to add one word about signing off. In case things do not work out please take care to part gracefully. In such instances it is not the best decision to say such things over chat. The other person may put forward some very uncomfortable questions that you will have a tough time answering.


The best thing you cold do is send the person an e-mail telling him or her that he or she was not really what you had in mind, but you would like to remain good friends all the same.


You do not have to worry about being pestered by the other person in future; the "good friends" part never fails. Most people dislike to be called a good friend after a close encounter. In most cases the relationship just sizzles out after this. However please remember that it is indeed bad manners to part with out a word and just stop answering mails without any information at all.


Some people do that because they do not want to offend the other person. But such callousness is really worse.


So that is all about it. You know everything that is to be known and the ball is now well and truly in your courts. So what are you waiting for, why don't you go out there and make your presence felt and come back with the catch of a lifetime.


I don't think that we have left any stones unturned and from here I'm sure that on your first date everything will be well in your control.



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