Where Do You Start?
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Romantic at Heart
The first tip we
would like to give you is NOT to go straight away into a singles'
chat room and try to find somebody who would interest you. All of us
know that most of such chat rooms are virtually flooded with people
who have only one thing on their mind - sex. So, no matter what you
ask for, it always ends up in that and the purpose is defeated. You
will never get the kind of person who kind of matches your interests
Sometimes it can really
get quite infuriating. Everything starts off well. You are having a
nice conversation with a person and warming up when all of the
sudden, the topic moves towards the three letter word. The you let
out a sigh and either have to bar messages from that person and risk
the person bad mouthing you in a public chat room. Usually you have
to leave the chat room all together.
In other words, it is
the easiest thing to get someone to sleep with you but if you are
looking for something more enduring, like a partner for life, then
you are going to have to be a little more patient. The pick of the
litter is not easy to find. But you do find it; it is going to be
worth the effort.
So instead of going
into a singles' chat room, what you could do is, you could try the
whole thing out from a different angle. You could try working
More Than Looks
Sit for a minute or two
and try and think about the things that interest you and things that
you would find interesting in a person.
By 'things' over here I
am not referring to physical attributes. I am not referring to
something that might interest you in a person's physical appearance.
Again the distinction has to be drawn between a serious relationship
and a casual relationship. In a casual relationship, the importance
is always for the physical attributes. We are more concerned with
what the person looks like and what the person has been endowed
On the other hand, if
we have a serious relationship, then the physical qualities are not
so important. Compatibility is probably the most important factor
over here. Along with that there are certain qualities that obviously
we will be looking out for. We are talking about qualities of the
mind. After all, beauty is only skin deep!
This idea might sound
strange, but it is actually true. The idea is that it is possible to
grow to like the looks of a person. Once you find the character of
the person agreeable you will start liking the person as a whole. It
is entirely possible to fall in love with a person if the person does
not look like a movie star. That is one of the tricks that nature
There are many people
who insist on taking a look at the other person's picture before
actually committing to a relationship. They might have their reasons
of course, but I, for one, feel that such a decision based largely on
looks is more suitable for a casual relationship. It is bound to
sizzle off after some time. After all, how long can you keep staring
at a person? And what happens if the person doesn't stare back at
Or even worse, what
happens if you find the person staring at another person? Looks may
be important, but they certainly are not the most important thing and
should never be used as the deciding factor if you are thinking about
a serious relationship.